JUST ONE THING
Stop Complaining, Start Creating
Episode 167
With Rick White, 180BIZ
I want to talk about identity today, and I think this is super important. There are three different identities that I want you to think about.
1. Complainer. How many people do you know in your life who love to complain? They find something wrong with everything. It doesn't matter. The problem with that is that it doesn't get anything done. Does it? When you're complaining, you're playing the victim. You can't grow your business by complaining.
2. Critic. This is where you're kicking the crap out of everyone. Think about those people in your life where you are busy doing something and they're telling you it's never going to work. You know what I say to those people? Get out of my way. I have someplace to go. You can't grow your business by criticizing.
3. Creator. You can be a creator, a critic, or a complainer. Which of these three are you going to be? If I'm a creator, this is where I work on getting better. This is where I work on learning to control myself. This is where I can learn to influence more persuasively. That's what I believe life is about. I can also help and serve.
You can't create the life you want by complaining. Are you complaining? Are you playing the victim? Are things happening to you or are you looking for the lesson? Complaining is where you roll over and die because you're complaining about everything that's going wrong. It's not going the way you want it to go. Well, I have news for you. I have been so disappointed by the way I thought things should go and the way they did go. But it doesn't have to be that way. The reality is everything happens for us. That's my core belief. Everything happens for us.
There's a lesson in it and a reason for it. There's a lesson in it and a purpose behind it. Are you a complainer? Are you shaking your fist and saying that's not fair, or are you a critic looking at what everyone else is doing and trying to manage their lives instead of managing your own?
Are you whining or are you winning? Do you want to be a creator and do something amazing? Are you going to get knocked down? You betcha. Is it going to hurt sometimes? You betcha. Is it going to be discouraging sometimes? You betcha. But you know something? There will be nothing more rewarding than being a creator.
Here's the head fake I want to give you, these aren't identities. You are so much more than any one or all of these three things. They are rooms you live in. Think about that for one second. They are rooms you live in. Sometimes we get stuck in a room and we're not aware of it. I'm guilty of that too. Sometimes I get angry and bitter about things because I have this unconscious blueprint about how I expect things to go. When they don't go that way, what do I end up doing? I end up criticizing and complaining. But these are rooms that you live in. These are not who you are. You decide who you are. If you don't, you let circumstances, events, and other people's situations decide what room you're going to be in. And it doesn't have to be that way.
So, I'll ask you this question. What room will you be in today? Just for fun, let's understand that this is a decision that you and I have to make every single morning. Am I going to be in a complaining room? Am I going to be in the criticizing room? Or am I going to be in the creating room? And I must tell you something. I'd rather be in the creating room. When I am in the complaining room, I'm reacting. When I’m in a creating room, I’m creating. It's the opposite of reacting.
Don't ever judge yourself on the results. Judge yourself on your effort. Judge yourself on how you are showing up. Judge yourself on your focus and your intentions and play the long game. It's going to make a huge difference. Just make a promise to yourself that every morning you will ask yourself this one question. What room will I stay in today? Ask yourself that question before you start your day and watch what happens to your day. It won’t be perfect. It won’t be awesome right away. But you will get better every single day.
We have our shop owner's round table, 7:00 PM Eastern on the third Thursday, and then we also have our Pocket Business Genius webinar series, and it's going to be really off the hook. That's the same Thursday at 1:00 PM Eastern. So please, I'm going to ask you to do one more thing for me. Can you share this video? I promise you there are some people stuck in a room. I think some people are in a room, the door is shut and they have a bureau or something up against the door and they can't get out. Let's share this video and let's help them out.
Have a great week. God bless. Stay safe, have fun, and go make some money. See y'all.
